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While there are plenty of toys for BDSM newbies out there, sex whips are definitely among the more ~advanced~ BDSM offerings. Used during impact play, whips (as well as crops and floggers) can be used to explore a range of new sensations in the bedroom, and while impact toys are often associated with pain, using them doesn't have to be painful—unless you want it to be, of course! As Isabelle Uren, a sexpert at BedBible, explains, "When used with a little more force, impact toys stimulate blood flow, enhancing sensitivity," though you can trail your whip along your partner's body to build anticipation if you're just starting out.
Similar to spanking paddles, sex whips great tools for getting into the dominant role. "Plus, you can use them to prompt your partner's movements as you issue commands or punish them if they misbehave," Uren adds. And while whips have a handle with a single tail, "creating a stingy feeling as they hit your body," Uren says that floggers (which have multiple tails and can create either stingy or thuddy impacts) may be a better choice for beginners—though the material you choose also make a big difference. "If you are just getting started, stick to softer materials like soft silky ropes, suede, or soft leather, or faux leather," she says. Whether you're a beginner or a BDSM aficionado, we've got a range of options for you to peruse.
Before using a sex whip or flogger on your partner, it's also important to have an established safe word and to set boundaries with your partner. Likewise, the dominating partner should stick to whipping fleshier areas like the butt and upper thighs, as hitting the ribs, spine, or neck could cause fatal injuries. Uren suggests practicing using your new impact toy on a pillow or armchair before using it on a partner. "You need to figure out the right distance between you and the target so that the falls hit them without wrapping around their body, as this can be painful and not in the good way," she says.
Now on to the good stuff! Ahead, all the whips, floggers, and crops that are *sure* to leave an impact on your sex life.
Like sex whips, riding crops are appealing because of the fun swoosh they make in the air, and since they only deliver a mild-to-firm slap to someone's body, they can also make a good choice for BDSM beginners (though they def shouldn't be used without practice). This option has an extra-long shaft and wide leather slapper, both of which help to soften the blow a bit.
Designed for folks who are a lil more experienced with impact play, this shorter riding crop is made with soft vegan leather and features dual tips, which can deliver a variety of sensations ranging from soft to stingy. We stan a versatile sexccessory!
First-time floggers should look for an option with a fair amount of tails made from a softer material, as it will give a light thuddy impact without being too intense. This flogger from Cal Exotics is the *perfect* beginner choice, as it's got plenty of thick, satin falls and a sturdy wooden handle complete with a safety loop.
Looking to deliver a lil less tickle and a lil more sting? Then check out this affordable leather flogger, which features thinner tails and can be used to provide everything from gentle strokes to sharp slaps, depending on how the dominant partner chooses to use it.
For a cat-o'-nine-tails that'll take impact play to the next level, go with this braided flogger. This bb has tips similar to those on a riding crop, which means it provides a lil extra snap with each blow, and the bubbled handle makes it easy for you to keep your grip no matter how slick things get.
Now moving on to BDSM whips! Dragon tails are good for beginners, as they consist of a single rolled lash and tend to land with more of a thud than a sting. Though heavier than a classic single-tail braided whip, dragon tail whips are much easier to use (thanks to their sturdy handle), and this gorge leather option is an A+ choice.
Wrapped with soft leather and complete with a s-t-u-n-n-i-n-g zinc alloy rose ornament on the handle, this designer option (which was made in a collab with sex shop royalty ZALO and UPKO) is truuuly luxurious. And it's not just aesthetic, either—it really does deliver a nice sting.
Snake whips are one-tail braided whips with flexible handles, which makes them light and compact for travel. This handmade leather option features two short leather tails on its end, which allow you to make short biting strikes on the submissive partner's body.
Made only with advanced users in mind, this handmade nylon braided bull whip is heavy, loud, and delivers a *serious* crack. This incredibly well-designed option has a steel core in the handle and a real leather body, and it also comes with five spare nylon crackers for the end of the fall to keep things ~fresh.~ This whip is very much NOT a toy, so pls handle with care, friends.
Corinne Sullivan is an Editor at Cosmopolitan, where she covers a variety of beats, including lifestyle, entertainment, relationships, shopping, and more. She can tell you everything you need to know about the love lives of A-listers, the coziest bedsheets, and the sex toys actually worth your $$$. She is also the author of the 2018 novel Indecent. Follow her on Instagram for cute pics of her pup and bébé.
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